It is during these times, and every other moment of every day, that we need to remind ourselves to constantly encourage the positive in our children. Luckily there are easy ways to incorporate this teaching into everyday situations. Practice the activities for a few weeks and before you know it, they will be second nature to you.
Here are some reminders how to keep it positive:
Tantrums are your friend.
Now that may seem a bit strange, but a tantrum can be a great lesson for toddlers on how to handle difficult or emotional situations. We all know how the classic tantrum goes - screaming, stomping feet and wild arms. Knowing how to calm you child during these Hulk-like moments can teach them how to control their emotions and rational thinking. When these tantrums start your child will need your reassurance. Get down to their eye level and speak to them in short and easy sentences. Ask them to match your slow breathing and try to calm them. Once they can talk, get them to explain to you, and themselves, why they are acting this way and what caused it. When this is established, the two of you can work through different solutions together on how the problem could have been solved. For example if another child took their favorite toy, they could have come to you for help first instead of going full-blown tantrum.
Share Your Pride
Children react best to positive reinforcement, so keep making them feel good about doing well, and they will continue on this path. Work these methods into everyday life - maybe it will even help you cool off during stressful situations as well!
Good luck mama!